Me, being a realist and refusing to be a hopeless romantic, is making me go through all type of trouble towards understanding the true meaning of "Love". I couldn't find a better way to start off this post other than going back to the basics and defining "Love". According to thefreedictionary.com, the word "Love" has seventeen different definitions; 10 of which are nouns and 7 are verbs. The state of being in love on the other hand has only one definition; Deeply or passionately enamored.
I think we can all agree that having one definition for being in love only proves how significant the feeling is, and how the word itself does in fact deserve all the hype and attention it gets. The reasons for it are extremely hard to narrow down or even figure out; no one knows why he/she is deeply in love with someone who isn't at all compatible. You hear about the term "Opposites attract" all the time and how having such differences completes you instead of pushing you away, but is it true?
I read studies that proved that love can actually be stimulated by different things, but how chemistry is the most important factor of it all. Having that intense chemistry is what makes two people love, want, and need one another. The tricky thing about chemistry is that you either have it or you just don't; having it makes everything worth it in the end, and not having it makes you not fight for it in the beginning. So what can you do when you're not sure about your own chemistry? You try! According to studies that have been conducted, there are things you can actually do to start a spark with someone. Apparently there are elements which can trigger that missing chemistry; Smell, love pheromones, and the brain itself. As weird as it may sound, it makes perfect sense; walking around with an attractive scent makes you desirable to people around you. As for both the brain and the pheromones, they are mainly controlled by hormones and uncontrolled signals coming from our olfactory system into the brain.
The more important question here is if love is in fact considered a state of mind? Or is it fate that brings people together? And is playing mind games is what you need to be doing to maintain your relationship?
I personally believe that love can be both a state of mind mixed with great chemistry and compatibility. What do you think?