Me, being a realist and refusing to be a hopeless romantic, is making me go through all type of trouble towards understanding the true meaning of "Love". I couldn't find a better way to start off this post other than going back to the basics and defining "Love". According to thefreedictionary.com, the word "Love" has seventeen different definitions; 10 of which are nouns and 7 are verbs. The state of being in love on the other hand has only one definition; Deeply or passionately enamored.
I think we can all agree that having one definition for being in love only proves how significant the feeling is, and how the word itself does in fact deserve all the hype and attention it gets. The reasons for it are extremely hard to narrow down or even figure out; no one knows why he/she is deeply in love with someone who isn't at all compatible. You hear about the term "Opposites attract" all the time and how having such differences completes you instead of pushing you away, but is it true?
I read studies that proved that love can actually be stimulated by different things, but how chemistry is the most important factor of it all. Having that intense chemistry is what makes two people love, want, and need one another. The tricky thing about chemistry is that you either have it or you just don't; having it makes everything worth it in the end, and not having it makes you not fight for it in the beginning. So what can you do when you're not sure about your own chemistry? You try! According to studies that have been conducted, there are things you can actually do to start a spark with someone. Apparently there are elements which can trigger that missing chemistry; Smell, love pheromones, and the brain itself. As weird as it may sound, it makes perfect sense; walking around with an attractive scent makes you desirable to people around you. As for both the brain and the pheromones, they are mainly controlled by hormones and uncontrolled signals coming from our olfactory system into the brain.
The more important question here is if love is in fact considered a state of mind? Or is it fate that brings people together? And is playing mind games is what you need to be doing to maintain your relationship?
I personally believe that love can be both a state of mind mixed with great chemistry and compatibility. What do you think?
I'd agree with both, love IS a state of mind (being happy and always glad that you've found someone so close) and great chemistry, that you never run out of things to say with your partner, and you two just are perfect tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteAnd that, is the hardest to find, the great combination of both
love is a HEADACHE
ReplyDeleteBeyond one sided love, love doesnt exist.. just a good excuse for being gay, suicide, and selling cards/flowers and such.
ReplyDeleteGreat blog, good try on being optimistic :)
Bush
Well, love alone isn't enough. And by that I mean chemistry alone isn't enough. You gotta consider your mind every once in a while to save your heart from being doomed ;p
ReplyDeletebut I mostly think that what we the humans do when we're in love, is think think think and consider our minds, and in the end just follow what the heart says and let the 'chemistry' do its job. ;p
I grew up witnessing one of the greatest love stories. My parents were two opposites from different religious and economic backgrounds. They met and fell in love at University. Their parents forbid them to marry but they did it against all odds. Today they are still happily married and I wouldn't settle for anything less than what they have together. I do believe in true love / soul mates / destiny, etc. I'm just a hopeless romantic. Great post! :D
ReplyDeleteI think love is built on compatibility more than a state of mind.. two people that are not compatible will never love each other even if they are attracted to each other.. also, what do you define compatibility as?
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your comments.
ReplyDeleteLouka I completely agree with you. The state of mind comes down to your own nature as a person, however the chemistry builds up on its own.
Bush LOL @your definition of love. I do write positive things, I think. Anyway thank you, and yes sometimes I do feel like there is no such thing as love.
Manayer yes I admit that I over-think many things, and that ruins the chemistry part.
Expat Awwww that is the kind of stories I love to hear about, It is extremely romantic when two people fight for each other and the love that they have. I however disagree on the whole soul mates part, I don't believe in that anymore. But I'm hoping life proves me wrong.
Gerrard compatibility is in fact a major factor, and what I meant by it is when two people who are just so right in every way possible but specially their mentality and perception of life.