This is another of my "Reasons that..." posts.
Here we go...
So you need to leave his sorry self when...
1-He keeps lying to you. I know, they all do and it's always the same. The old "You're the only one for me" line, when he has 2 other girls on the side. Or even worse, if you're the one on the side. Leave him before he pulls a Tiger Woods on you.
2-You caught him cheating. Sorry, but once a cheater always a cheater. Second chances? Nope, I don't believe it works with them guys. Unless you're also cheating, dump. him. right. this. second. You know he won't be as forgiving if you did the same.
3-He doesn't treat you right. All the Clichés and lines you keep hearing about the way you should be treated are true. Just because one guy can't see your worth doesn't mean they all can't. Quit him and move on to better opportunities, Mr.Right could be just right around the corner waiting. Take my word for it.
4- If he is a self-centered egocentric selfish loser. Rule of thumb; if he's always thinking about himself he'll never be thinking about you. Sometimes a girl can be blinded by love, but when you finally see him for what he is, don't hesitate to leave him. At the end of the day why would you wanna be with a loser anyway?
5- When he keeps promising you things you both know he can't keep. Guys if you're reading this, stop it! As sweet it is to have a dreamy guy, it is never sweet to have a liar. Girls, if he keeps getting your hopes high and then crashing it the next day then it's time to face reality; he's never going to change or do half of the things he says he will.
.... And 6 reasons you know he's a keeper.
1- He cares. When I say cares, I mean in and out, all the way cares. I now realized that finding someone who is genuinely honest when he says he cares is almost impossible. So when you do find him, make sure you never lose him.
2- He notices the little things you do. It's true what they say "It's all in the details". When your guy notices the things you don't expect him to notice, it's beyond cute. This means he is paying attention, and who wouldn't want that?
3- He never let you sleep knowing you're upset. This is actually major. I can base a guy's personality on that fact alone. If he is sensitive towards your feelings, he won't hurt them. Studies did prove that sensitive caring guys make the best husbands and fathers.
4- He memorizes what you love so he can randomly surprise you with it. Remembering your favorite flowers, lilies, and surprising you with them is what I like to call romantic. And it doesn't have to be flowers, even the tiniest things count.
5- He'll always put you first. Yes, some guys actually do this. The gym and "Diwaniya" can wait, or at least that's what I think.
6- He'll fight for you. Nothing tops that. Nothing!
Feel free to add more things to either lists... I can't wait to see what I forgot.
Have a good one.
agree on many points, but i dont think anyone should put anyone first or above themselves (pt5). its not selfishness if u take the time to care for urself first and then make time for the needs of others. a diwaniya, gym, hanging out with friends, whatever... i believe these are things that are important, and ok u have the times when a person needs you and so u have to put their needs above yours but if i do that it better be a pretty good case!
ReplyDeletetotally agree with u latoops, plus it goes both ways
ReplyDeleteNo two guys or two girls are the same, and hence no two actions are comparable.
ReplyDeleteA guy could be caring but won't fight for you, or memorizes the little things but won't put you first. These "reasons" can and probably will contradict each other.
Relationships are simple and the only rule should be- to have no rules.
Appreciate everything, live, love, laugh and most importantly, communicate.
AGREE!!! two thumps up for this post !
ReplyDeleteAisha:
if there is no rules, then I guess you don't mind ur bf cheating on ?
Latoops: Yes I didn't mean it in a very literal form. I dont want him to ditch his plans every single day of the week, but what I meant was that it would be cute if he puts you first once in a while. anyway I respect your opinion.
ReplyDeleteAno: It does go both ways, ur right.
Aisha: The list of what makes him a keeper is basically a dream list. I know that its almost impossible to find all this in one guy, I didn't mean it that way. What I meant to say is that what's better than a guy who fights for you? or what's better than a guy who basically sees you as a priority? It doesn't necessarily means all of the above, one quality is more than enough. Your opinion is much appreciated.
D: Thank you!! I also agree, no rules will lead to cheating and all that other things.
Ooh FD, you really screwed the pooch on this one. It's a great write up and I applaud you for that, but the subject at hand doesn't really float my boat.
ReplyDeleteProposed title change: "5 Reasons Why your Life should be All about Me".
Hahaha kalam kibeeer FD, leave him before he pulls a tiger woods made my day. I'm still chuckling about it :p
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I can't stand it when you're on a first date and they start promising you all this BS. Exotic vacations around the world, shopping trips, marriage....uh, hello!!! We just met and I just want a gentleman that will treat me well, not lie or cheat on me! I don't even care about looks. It's really what's inside! Of course for True Blood I am totally into Eric. I wouldn’t want to date that kind of guy myself. I’m all about the good guys!
ReplyDeleteFD this post is pointless. This is you saying, listen here, prospective dude who wants to date me, this is what I expect. If you don't do this, please check yourself before you wrecks yourself.
ReplyDeleteProposed Title Change: "How To Score with FD Bliss"
Ok I dunno why my profile is not appearing so I'm gonna comment as an anonymous:
ReplyDeleteFD, first of all, welcome back, we missed you on this blog. Secondly, your list is awesome - if we're speaking ideally; at the same time, I regrettably say that it is unrealistic. For example, I can safely say that most women choose to keep those who are on your dump list and choose to leave those who are on your keepers list, it's always the other way round! For example, there are men who were dumped by women who they fought for so sincerely and hard, and sometimes caring is being met with lack of appreciation, selfishness, and the woman giving him her back because it's misinterpreted as "desperately chasing" or "too soft" or "too easy" and so on. On the other hand, there are many A-holes who treat their girlfriends/wives like shit, disrespect them, lie to them, cheat on them, and maybe even abuse them both emotionally and physically, and for some reason the woman is so attached to him and can't let go! Get what I mean?
So on this one I kinda agree with Aisha, you shouldn't try too hard living by such "rules", instead just be yourself and act naturally; because at the end of the day:
الطيبون للطيبات و الخبيثون للخبيثات
Other than that, I agree with you and great women like you surely deserve the best men.
FD this post is amazing! anyone who thinks its NOT then ashkara they're doing whatever is mentioned here :P
ReplyDeleteGotta agree with Latoops! a person gotta care for themselves FIRST, then others. but it has to be in moderation ya3ne mo the world revolves around them and only them no.. that's very selfish.
well written love! xx
Rx: Thanks! Ur a guy I don't expect you to get it! ;p
ReplyDeleteGerrard Thank you! glad you liked it;)
Expat LOL !! Ya true that
Bodie yes, I have high expectations and I'm totally worth it.
Ano: I have no idea who u are im sorry about that and I'm also sorry about your profile not appearing. Anyway thank you so much for your sweet comment. I agree, sometimes you fall blindly in love you can't help but be stuck on someone who is a complete self-centered jerk. Anyway thank you again ;)
FJ: Thank you ;** Yes, 7ada. Getting so defensive is another word for guilty.
this a great post! i know exactly where its coming from;p guys can b so insensitive sometimes, same applies to girls, and i guess in the end it all depends on the person ur with. but when a guy just lies, doent care, and cheats, 7adda dump his sorry ass. u deserve waaaaayyyy better! no guy is perfect, bess when he does all those things u listed, he basically isnt taking his girl or the relationship serious. MALAT 3ALAIH OO 3ALA SHAKLA *KAMMA*;p
ReplyDelete"Sometimes a girl can be blinded by love"
ReplyDeleteAre you sure it's just sometimes? :p
O ana agool, itha you don't wanna get your heart broken, cut it out and wait for ilme3ris ya bnaiti.. ;p
Ano LOOL your comment made me laugh! I couldn't agree more with you. You know what, guys like that SUCK! ;p
ReplyDeleteManayer lol yes love makes you blind. And even when you get married do you think these things don't happen? I think it happens even more unfortunately.