I read this article about "Happiness" days ago, and I'm still thinking about it. It was an eye opener to me, so I decided to share some of my thoughts with you fellow readers.
Who wouldn't want to be happy? Or the better question here is, "What is happiness?"
Every person gets to decide on his/her own pillars of happiness. It varies from each individual, but if I were to write down a list of my own key to happiness it will probably be something like this:
1-Good Health; not only me but everyone who is close to me.
2-Finishing off college this year and getting that perfect job.
3-Fantastic relationships; this includes everything from social life to family life to love life to basically everything.
4-Financial stability is always a key to being happy. I know, the best things in life can't be bought; whoever said that was definitely not a shopaholic because to me, shopping always makes me feel better.
5- Staying fit always and forever! If only I wasn't too in love with food...
6- Positivity. I know, look who's talking right? I'm like the number one cynic, but I do believe in the laws of attraction and positivity does get you in a better mood.
The list goes on and on...
However, my point is not my list; my point is that article I read, which states that most times you rob yourself from your own happiness. This happens when you think of the many things you wish to have or you wish never happened, A.K.A "Regret".
I'll elaborate. First, when you think of the things you wish you have, you're depriving yourself of two things; enjoying what you do already have, and being at peace with yourself. When you nag yourself about the missing things in your life, which you think would complement your life and turn it into perfection you are taking for granted everything good in your life. Most of the time I underestimate the little things that makes me happy, or the people who make me happy because of those other things that I think I need.
Second, regretting gets you no where. Learning from your mistakes on the other hand is necessary. Torturing yourself with things you can't change will take away your happiness, and that's why letting go sometimes is all you need to do.
Back to being happy. According to studies, people who are more happy tend to be healthier and live longer. They also tend to have better relationships, obviously, and even better careers. Sadly, another studies proved that the average time spent being happy have dropped to its all time lowest; 13 non-consecutive SECONDS per day! Wait it gets better, the study also recorded the smallest period of contentment; 3.7 millisecond interval preceding the realization that one was experiencing happiness, and that it could not possibly last. "This just depressed me!"
Other records include 0.8 seconds upon awakening but only before you remember that you are a conscience being in a relentlessly bleak and numbing world, I kid you not! And also, 1.9 seconds after finishing a good meal. I always thought a good meal gives you at least 5 minutes of happiness turns out on average you get less than 2 minutes and only 0.6 seconds upon receiving a paycheck. "0.6 seconds!?!"
**Just in case you were wondering this study was conducted by the journal of social science. Berkeley, California.
Knowing all this I decided that I'm going to start a detox starting now. I'm going to detox my self from negativity, F.J. if you're reading this I bet you're smiling right now, and I'm going to be more focused on what I'm fortunate enough to have rather than what I don't have.
Writing this post got me in a better mood though, hope it does the same to you!