I read this article about "Happiness" days ago, and I'm still thinking about it. It was an eye opener to me, so I decided to share some of my thoughts with you fellow readers.
Who wouldn't want to be happy? Or the better question here is, "What is happiness?"
Every person gets to decide on his/her own pillars of happiness. It varies from each individual, but if I were to write down a list of my own key to happiness it will probably be something like this:
1-Good Health; not only me but everyone who is close to me.
2-Finishing off college this year and getting that perfect job.
3-Fantastic relationships; this includes everything from social life to family life to love life to basically everything.
4-Financial stability is always a key to being happy. I know, the best things in life can't be bought; whoever said that was definitely not a shopaholic because to me, shopping always makes me feel better.
5- Staying fit always and forever! If only I wasn't too in love with food...
6- Positivity. I know, look who's talking right? I'm like the number one cynic, but I do believe in the laws of attraction and positivity does get you in a better mood.
The list goes on and on...
However, my point is not my list; my point is that article I read, which states that most times you rob yourself from your own happiness. This happens when you think of the many things you wish to have or you wish never happened, A.K.A "Regret".
I'll elaborate. First, when you think of the things you wish you have, you're depriving yourself of two things; enjoying what you do already have, and being at peace with yourself. When you nag yourself about the missing things in your life, which you think would complement your life and turn it into perfection you are taking for granted everything good in your life. Most of the time I underestimate the little things that makes me happy, or the people who make me happy because of those other things that I think I need.
Second, regretting gets you no where. Learning from your mistakes on the other hand is necessary. Torturing yourself with things you can't change will take away your happiness, and that's why letting go sometimes is all you need to do.
Back to being happy. According to studies, people who are more happy tend to be healthier and live longer. They also tend to have better relationships, obviously, and even better careers. Sadly, another studies proved that the average time spent being happy have dropped to its all time lowest; 13 non-consecutive SECONDS per day! Wait it gets better, the study also recorded the smallest period of contentment; 3.7 millisecond interval preceding the realization that one was experiencing happiness, and that it could not possibly last. "This just depressed me!"
Other records include 0.8 seconds upon awakening but only before you remember that you are a conscience being in a relentlessly bleak and numbing world, I kid you not! And also, 1.9 seconds after finishing a good meal. I always thought a good meal gives you at least 5 minutes of happiness turns out on average you get less than 2 minutes and only 0.6 seconds upon receiving a paycheck. "0.6 seconds!?!"
**Just in case you were wondering this study was conducted by the journal of social science. Berkeley, California.
Knowing all this I decided that I'm going to start a detox starting now. I'm going to detox my self from negativity, F.J. if you're reading this I bet you're smiling right now, and I'm going to be more focused on what I'm fortunate enough to have rather than what I don't have.
Writing this post got me in a better mood though, hope it does the same to you!
I'm sorry to break this to you, but #2 "Finishing off college this year and getting that perfect job" will only bring you misery :P No happiness whatsoever. Lol so if anything, Enjoy colleague ;)
ReplyDelete"6- Positivity. I know, look who's talking right? I'm like the number one cynic, but I do believe in the laws of attraction and positivity does get you in a better mood." You're doing a great job babe ;*
In reference to regret, I think sometimes its good and healthy to have some regrets, only to never do the same mistake again. Otherwise, life goes on.
Great post! xx
FJ
MUH aaaaaa In refrence to F.J Bliss, you have no clue what you're talking about. lol. what is this? Please think before you open your mouth. You are very stoopid.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! xx
SM
LOL i must be very important to you since you left the entire post just to comment on what I said.. How smart :)
ReplyDeleteFJ :D
SM: Shut up before I slit your throat and go do something useful with your life, like killing yourself you faggot.
ReplyDeleteF.D: Awesome post btw! Up until that faggot SM had to ruin things with his/her negativity and hate.
ReplyDeleteFJ : Thanks ;* yes regret helps at times:
ReplyDeleteAs for you SM, I think you misunderstood the whole blog thing. you see in blogs, people write posts and then others comment on the POST itself, not on other bloggers. Another thing, if you have no positive input to add you don't really have to comment. You're only embarrassing yourself with your too obvious pathetic attempts. I suggest you get some help; for your case I think therapy and extremely high doses of meds would be your best option. One last thing, just because you can't be FJ or even close to one third of her you don't have to hate on her. It just exposes your sick psychotic nature, which gets us back to the fact that you need some serious help!
RX Thanks! SM does have all the faggot/douche baggy symptoms, but I still believe he/SHE is sick in the head.
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ReplyDeleteI can see how "smart" you are by insulting others by thinking that regret only means "sobbing and crying" hehe what an excuse. Clearly you are young; that's the only reason a person would insult another person without even knowing them, and in their own blog.
ReplyDeleteSM, thank you for your opinion, as for the insults i will be no longer accepting your comments thanks again for taking the time to write such a long justification :)
SM,
ReplyDelete"MUH aaaaaa In refrence to F.J Bliss, you have no clue what you're talking about. lol. what is this? Please think before you open your mouth. You are very stoopid."
You start out by claiming FJ doesn't know what she's talking about, then you laugh and rudely ask her to shut up and call her stupid. Why doesn't she have a clue? Would you like to emulate on the subject at hand before insulting her? Provide reasons for your argument before you criticize and insult people.
Since you decided to go on an insulting spree to a dear friend of mine on our ground, then be prepared for a world of hate, so stop acting like a PMSing bitch faggot; we're providing you with counter-contructive criticism. You were allowed by "42" admins to publish your so-called reply of faggotry, so we also have the right to reply at your faggifications.
Now,
The word faggot is not similar nor even close to nigger, you uneducated faggot. I'd also like to add that you are a retard, mostly because you associated the word "faggot" with racism. When were faggots considered as a race you retarded faggot?
And yes, I'm calling homosexuals "faggots" on purpose because it offends them, and I could care less you faggot. I'll keep on throwing it around till the day I die.
SM I think you should get a life! LOL! Yet again you proved how big of a joke you are. If you want to express your opinion, there is pleeenty of better ways to do so. You don't have to use the word "Stupid" or in ur case "Stoopid". If really you didn't like what FJ said you can follow the decent thing to do, which is either ignore whatever she said or tell her that you disagree, simply. What kind of barbaric environment did you come from? When I and RX called you names, is because we know we are dealing with someone with mentality of a 12 year old and this is the only way you will get the message.
ReplyDeleteTreat people the way you want to be treated. Do not attack, and then expect people to be nice to you. You're disrespectful, you embarrass yourself by acting so ignorant. And to add insult to injury you defend yourself with the most idiotic explanation ever. Really, you thought she was stoopid because you didnt like what she said about regret? you are truly ridiculous! Best of luck with that therapy you should be having :)
"It's just that FJ's condition of being so darn stupid caught my attention and I naturally fail to ignore people with such small brains, I always have to point it out so that they can work on their nonexistent intelligence."
ReplyDeleteFJ has more knowledge in 1 hair than in your entire body. If you're about to insult someone, at least make sure you sound a bit intelligent about it, faggot.
Unlike you, FJ has friends that'll stick with her through thick and thin when faggots like you make an appearance.
Seriously, do us all a favor and jump off a building or go get raped by some dude on the street, because essentially that's what you're worth.
Please make my day and reply so that I can further educate and guide you, since your parents did a shit job.
SM. I'm not in the mood to get in an argument with you. bas 3afia If you have hidden agendas against anyone here. you can consider my middle finger raised to you.
ReplyDeleteF.D. Bliss: great post - as always! you're the writer...
ReplyDeleteF.J. Bliss: you're the best
SM is someone apparently hiding behind a computer screen, i'm not sure but it seems that all you 5 admins of 42 don't even know who the hell SM is (is it a he or a she?), so I wouldn't even waste my time posting/publishing his/her comments
Ano: thanks! SM should learn a couple of things from you
ReplyDeleteYou're so cool right now F.D. And I have no idea how this relates to anything. You're just so cool...
ReplyDeleteWOW, RX just called me cool!! The world must be coming to an end or something, But I might as well enjoy this once in a life time compliment!! Too bad I can't say Right back at ya, cos cool doesn't do you justice ;)
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